What too many men get wrong with cunnilingus

Too many men are getting something wrong when they go down on a woman (aka cunnilingus). And it's all because of the clitoris.

Yes, we all know that the clit is a particularly sensitive part of a woman's vagina. Yes, women want you to pay attention to it. But for fuck's sake, don't ONLY focus on the clitoris.

I've heard of a handful of men following the same recipe. Tell me if it sounds familiar:

You go down. You maybe tease around it a bit in the beginning, but then you find a comfy spot, get your lips locked around the clit, and you sit there, sucking. At some point, you start thrusting your fingers inside her, and that's where you stay until she comes.

How long does it take her to come? Some women faster than others, I imagine. But seeing ladies have had several guys follow the same recipe, it's becoming boring. Predictable. Utterly lifeless.

Men, can you please, god, ravish her pussy? Pay attention to her entire pussy? 

Think of it this way. The head of your penis is particularly sensitive. Does that mean you only want a woman to pay attention to the tip? Fuck no! That would be super intense and yes, you would come, but it'd feel...not enough, right? Because you want the fullness of your erection to feel EVERYTHING! 

It's the same for women!

Don't just settle on the clit like this is some kind of production line. Like you're just trying to get her orgasm out of the way as fast as possible so you can feel like your work is done (which I'm so sad to say I think is often the case).

She wants your mouth all over her! She wants your tongue INSIDE her! She wants you licking and tasting and exploring and spreading and feasting on every part of her. She wants you making out with her pussy the way you make out with her mouth. She wants to feel the passion of your breath, of your slow and ravishing exploration of her lips. She wants you to love making out with her down there, in every edge, every corner that turns you on to taste and feel.

Of course, the clit should get attention. Of course, penetration should grow and progress into a crescendo of orgasmic ecstasy. But for fuck's sake, make out with her whole pussy, not just a fraction of it.

---

UPDATE:

I wrote this blog post in a fit of rage. After reflecting on it a lot, I want to clarify something: it isn't about what you do; it's how you do it.

I was frustrated because I, and other people I know, are fed up with method-based sexuality rather than presence-based sexuality. I see now that this post only emphasizes the method rather than presence.

So, I'd like to add this important final note: It doesn't matter what you do! It only matters that you're present in the moment rather than following some kind of mental checklist. She might like it my way, and she may even prefer the method I mentioned before. What you do isn't the point. The point is you need to pay attention and follow the moment.